Category: Relational Well-Being


~ Today’s Inspired Thought ~

~Inspired Action ~

How I appreciate such wise words. My mind is awake to the thoughts of how I have allowed myself to become my own obstacle in so many ways than one. I can’t control a flat tire. I can’t control the job market. I can’t control the rain. I can’t control who lies to me. But there have been plenty of obstacles that I could of prevented from coming my way.

Now I ask myself “How am you getting in my own way right now?”

I am now fully aware that there are a limitless supply of life obstacles that will come our way, obstacles that we just can’t see coming. So I should not make room for obstacles that I can prevent and control. Obstacles that come from me procrastinating. Obstacles that come from me miscommunicating. Obstacles that come from me being stubborn or careless.

I need to save myself the time and trouble and just stay ready for the ones that are least expected.

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~ I hope this message enlightens you as well ~

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~Today’s Inspired Thought~

This is the reason why I am getting more comfortable living life as a single woman right now ♥

Because I love myself enough to see that “being single doesn’t mean that [I] know nothing about love. [But that] sometimes, being solo is wiser than being in a false relationship.

For the past 10 years I have placed myself in one false relationship to another. Due to my own false definitions of love. I was so in love with love that I blinded myself from the truth!

Just because he finds you physically attractive and you find him physically attractive does not guarantee that it is love. Just because you talk or text everyday does not guarantee that it is love. 

You “love” the fact that he is attractive and you “love” the fact that you can talk everyday but that doesn’t mean it’s True Love!

 It is the experience that I loved! The experience that he looks better, talks better, and acts better than the last guy or men you’ve dated in the past but that does NOT guarantee that it is True LOVE.

I can’t afford another false relationship anymore. I have cried enough tears and suffered enough from low esteem and doubts of my own abilities. I take full responsible for putting my soul in so much emotional turmoil because I kept choosing Mr. Wrong.  I’ve spent too much time with Mr. Wrong  and hindered possibly many opportunities for me to cross paths with Mr. Right.

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~ Inspired Action ~

Thank you God, for the person who has shared both of these wise words today because I needed them today, yesterday and the day before that especially! I have been fighting temptation the past few days. I have visited his facebook page playing tug of war with the thought To write?! or Not to write?! 

These words were God Sent! I am grateful to my facebook friend for sharing both of these quotes! I’ve deleted my ex’s phone number month’s ago and the only thing that is keeping me from writing to him on facebook is considering the fact that he could be Mr. Wrong and if I go back to him I will never find Mr. Right.

And with one life to live, I can’t afford that!

I fully recognize that my desire to write to him is fueled by the disappoinment and regret that our relationship did not work just like the ones before him.  And my heart is sinking right now after writing those words ….just like the ones before him…I hate how I have to add him to my talli of failed relationships!

But once again I can’t afford to never find Mr. Right if I can’t let go of Mr. Wrong!

I have found strength today to continue to learn to live in love with myself and allow Mr. Right to come on God’s Time. I believe that as long as I keep my steps aligned with God and stay aligned to my line of positive purpose we will cross paths. ~♥~ ♥~ It is inevitable ~♥~ ♥~

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~May True Love find you when you least expect it. May True Love find you as such a pleasant surprise.~

~ Many Blessings ~

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I am so grateful to have been nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award. I am grateful to have been noticed. 🙂 I am more than happy to pay it forward to those I believe deserve recognition as well 🙂

The Versatile Blogger Award

Versatile Blogger Award Rules:

1) Thank the blogger who nominated you:  Thank you Marie Wetmore! 🙂

2) Tell us 7 interesting things about you:

1.  I have a twin sister and my mother has a twin brother! 2.  My twin and I were active athletes in high school – rowing team, softball team and field hockey. 3.  I graduated cum laude in College with a Music Performance Degree 4.  I love any and all music genres as long as the music sounds good and I love to cover them on the clarinet. 5. I am reestablishing my career as a fitness advocate 6. I am addicted to book sales at my local library. 7. I ~*~*~ ADORE ~*~*~ the movie “Pride and Prejudice”!

3) Nominate 15 blogs to receive The Versatile Blogger Award & let them know they have been nominated:

~ My Nominees ~

http://aninspiredapproach.com/

http://jwnajarian.wordpress.com/

http://mariewetmore.com/

http://goalhabits.com/

http://positivecookieattitudes.wordpress.com/

http://davidkanigan.com/

http://influenceversuscontrol.wordpress.com/

http://gyatoday.wordpress.com/

http://professionsforpeace.com/

http://healthdemystified.wordpress.com

http://aprilbradham.wordpress.com/

http://thejourn3y.com/

http://philstubbsquotes.wordpress.com/

http://momentmatters.wordpress.com/

http://kaftanbikini.wordpress.com

It was a pleasure to share my Nominees. I appreciate every single person’s positivity and inspirational messages. My cup of inspiration continues to be full because of them. ❤ ❤ ❤

~~ I hope we can also keep in touch on Facebook ~~

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Forgive me for this topic of discussion or expression. This subject matter is about the loss of someone’s life. If you are in a good mood, a great mood, a positive  mood, a happy mood today for any great reason I want to sincerely congratulate you for that reason and I care enough to say that it would behoove you not to read any further if you are not interested in reading material that speaks of a negative outcome. I do not want to ruin your mood. I do not wish to rain in your parade.

I created the blog Inspired Thought Inspired Action with the intention to share all the great and positive quotes, phrases, messages that inspires my thoughts and in turn inspires my actions which may in turn inspire you to do the same.

This blog is meant to be a positive environment for my fellow bloggers to visit….(can you feel the “but” coming…)

BUT life is not a “box of chocolates”. Life is of the good and bad. And the good and bad must be discussed to reinforce the beneficial reasons why we should aim to live a life full of good ways and educate ourselves and our loved ones on the negative outcomes if one chooses to do the opposite.

This is the reason why I am about to discuss the topic I watched on the The Dr. Phil Show.

We must learn from the bad in order to maintain reasons why we should always live for good.

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Here is a summary of the Dr. Phil Episode I watched this morning

Las Vegas showgirl Deborah Flores-Narvaez was allegedly strangled by her boyfriend, Cirque Du Soleil dancer, Jason Griffith. Authorities claim that after she was killed, Jason and his roommate put Deborah’s body in a tub and poured cement over it. Deborah and Jason had a history of domestic violence claims in their relationship, and now Jason sits in jail charged with her murder. His mother, Charlene, and sister, Samantha, say Jason wouldn’t hurt anyone, and if he did kill Deborah, it must have been in self-defense. Charlene says she believes Deborah was the violent one, and that her son’s video recording of Deborah proves it. Deborah’s mother, Elsie, and sister, Celeste, who believe Jason killed Deborah, meet Jason’s family for the first time on Dr. Phil’s stage. And, Jane Velez-Mitchell, host of her self-titled show on HLN, weighs in on the investigation.

Please take the time to watch clips of the episode to understand my response.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJj8kp4WJeA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnr5Z66DsQ4

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After watching this episode, I was completely in shock spiritually and mentally.

I am completely amazed by how the mother and sister continues to defer from the fact that this man should still be addressed as guilty for either leading the decision or taking part in the decision to cement and dismember his girlfriend with his friend…..no matter if this situation started as  self defense.

Wow…:Shaking my head:… Self defense can NOT be used as an excuse to take such extreme actions.

My heart hurts for this lost life!

No matter how much there is talk about her being an agressor. No matter how many times you show videos of her provoking him, of her swearing at him or other people!

No one…NO ONE deserves to lose their life in such a cruel and untimely way!

Is the mother and sister’s love for him blinding them from common sense?

Any man and any woman can provoke their boyfriend or girlfriend into a rage. And that boyfriend and girlfriend has a choice…

To yell back or not to yell back…..

To stay put and argue or not to stay put and not to argue….

To walk away or not to walk away….

To put their hands on that person or not put their hands on that person….

To strangle or not to strangle…

He made a choice and a witness confessed that he put his hands on her. And a clear point was made that its takes effort to strangle a person to death. During that time of effort… he could of stopped himself if he allowed common sense to kick in and instead choose to pay a smaller price for his actions rather than the risk of facing life in prison.

I keep hearing self defense..I haven’t heard anything about a knife or a gun at the scene of the crime. What was his reason for self defense if he was not threatened with a gun or knife/weapon?

Dr. Phil made a clear point that Jason was at least 50lbs heavier than her….how can her smacks and hits compare to Jason’s???

A TRUE man will never hit a woman….because he knows that its the **right thing to do.**

He will respect the fact that most men are biological stronger than women and it is not right to take advantage of that……It’s not right to abuse that fact.

But of course it’s not right for anyone to put their hands on anyone! Young, fit or old…. Girl, boy, man or woman…. No one has a right to put their hands on anyone! (parents spanking is another topic of discussion…)

And even if she was doing wrong by hitting him, it is still not right to retaliate by hitting her back.

My heart hurts for Deborah’s sister and mother. I am imagining being in their shoes. I am imagining how frustrating and hurtful it is that the mother and daughter of my sister’s murderer are not responding with a pure sense of empathy for the fact that he took part in cementing and dismembering the body of a human being.

How can someone NOT deserve life in prison for that??!!! Self defense or not!

How can someone NOT deserve life in prison for taking part or leading the decision to cement and dismember the body of human being???!!!

No excuse is ever good enough to act in such a way!

I am completely dumbfounded and saddened. I can never be that mother….. I can never be that sister. No matter how great of a man he was yesterday, last month, last year. A person can change in an instant.. A person can change into someone amazingly better or amazingly digress to someone unpredictable and unrecognizable.

And one must not respond in denial and defend a person’s wrongful ways.

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Prevention…

We need to learn from this unfortunate story and practice prevention.

How can stories like this be prevented?

What does it take to prevent a man and woman from ending up in such a toxic relationship?

What will it take to prevent our son and our daughter from growing up into such a toxic relationship and into such a negative outcome?

What will it take to prevent this history from repeating itself?

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Today’s Thank You Game challenge is to thank someone who brings beauty into your life. (http://on.fb.me/ThankYouGame)

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I responded by saying on facebook that

I thank my mother and father for giving me life.
My heart continues to beat because they gave birth to me
I still stand because they created and nurtured me to this very moment.
I am 27 years old because I was ONE day old.

I fully acknowledge that I didn’t put myself on this earth…..my parents, my grandparents, my ancestors and God brought me here. So I now do my best to act with gratitude even when days get rough between us…I do my best to respond with gratitude. ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

Day by day, I have come to realize that I didn’t put myself on this earth…I didn’t give birth to myself and so I have been blessed with life, I was given the gift of life and that is a priceless gift. A gift that I must say thank to my parents every day that I live. Wow…I vow to say thank you to my parents everyday I see them and say “Thank you Daddy, Thank you Mommy, for giving me life. I lived today because of you”

I vow to do this everyday.

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I realized that I was so quick to say Thank you that I did not clearly comprehend that today’s game is to  “Thank someone who brings beauty into your life.” Which makes me think “Who brings beauty into my life?”

Who I truly want to thank for the beauty in my life is God.

I thank God for the yellow rays of light that brightens our warm days.

I thank God for the white clouds and blue skies that lift our head up and lifts our spirits.

I thank God for the green grass and sweet scents of colorful flowers that can make us smile.

These are the true beauties in my life that I am grateful for.

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~~ Many Blessings to you ~~

Wise words in this series

Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember –the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you. -Zig Ziglar

“I’m not trying to erase my past….I’m just trying to be better for the future” – Perez Hilton

“What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.”

“Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons.” ~C Scott

“Life involves a continuing series of choices.” – My Fitness Book

“All the problems we experience in life can be relieved with a spiritual solution” – Oprah

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“What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.”

I am so grateful to have witnessed a man, who once found great pleasure in criticizing celebrities, has found inspiration to redeem himself when he realized that what he once took pleasure in was just the same as how children are being bullied in school.

Celebrity Blogger, Perez Hilton fully recognizes that he can not run away from his past by just saying that he has changed his ways. And so he now is taking action and setting a great example by letting the world know that he admits that he was wrong and that he is taking action to change his ways.

An audience member expressed that she is finding it hard to believe that he has changed; and he responded by saying that “I’m not trying to erase my past…I’m just trying to be better for the future” ~~~What an Aha moment for me.~~~

“Life involves a continuing series of choices.” and he is now choosing a better future.

These words below supports him so well.

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Everyday the sun rises is an opportunity for all of us to grow into a new and better person towards a new and better future.

Whatever bad you or someone has done yesterday, last month, last year should be seen as just that. That was yesterday, that was last month, that was last year and so on.

You should **be given room to change** and/or that person or persons **should be given room to grow, change, redeem themselves** instead of be held in a box of “No Good” for the rest of your or their lives just because of the bad you or they did in the **past**.

“Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons.” ~C Scott

We are all flawed…..There is no such thing as a perfectly birthed human being…..and so everyone should be given a chance to redeem themselves.

Everyone has the ability to change when the people around them changes their attitude towards them. Family, Friend, Ex, etc…..give people room to redeem themselves.

You don’t have to put up with their toxic attitudes and actions, if necessary, stay away from them….keep at a distance from them and give them room to redeem themselves…for however long it takes.

“All the problems we experience in life can be relieved with a spiritual solution” – Oprah

I believe all our troubles are meant to direct us to aligning our steps with GOD…aligning our steps to lessons that will lead to good ways.

Give room for someone to find their path towards alignment with God….towards alignment with GOOD.

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I am so so so grateful for Oprah’s Lifeclass

~Many Blessings to you~

Wise words in this text

The benefit of my pain is it gave me an intensity! – Tony Robbins

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The benefit of your pain is to give you wisdom, to discover strength that you never had before, to discover the gift from it which is to protect, serve and save yourself and most importantly to save another.

Share your pain, share your story, find peace from saving another.

*a great lesson learned today

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Thank the person you hurt because they have given you a conscious.

Wise Words in this text

“Thank the person you hurt because they have given you a conscious.” – Deepak Chopra

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Wow….have you done something to hurt a person but have no way to reach and apologize to that person? And the guilt is just eating you up inside??

Deepak Chopra says to “Thank the person because they have given you a conscious” A conscious you can now use to prevent yourself from hurting others like you have hurt that person.

Your lesson has been taught through him/her coming in and out of your life and so clear yourself of the guilt of not being able to apologize to him/her in person and honor the lesson learned by preventing the infliction of this pain from happening again.

#wow
Aha moment Thanks to Oprah’s Lifeclass Tour 4_16_12
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The benefit of your pain