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Forgive me for this topic of discussion or expression. This subject matter is about the loss of someone’s life. If you are in a good mood, a great mood, a positive  mood, a happy mood today for any great reason I want to sincerely congratulate you for that reason and I care enough to say that it would behoove you not to read any further if you are not interested in reading material that speaks of a negative outcome. I do not want to ruin your mood. I do not wish to rain in your parade.

I created the blog Inspired Thought Inspired Action with the intention to share all the great and positive quotes, phrases, messages that inspires my thoughts and in turn inspires my actions which may in turn inspire you to do the same.

This blog is meant to be a positive environment for my fellow bloggers to visit….(can you feel the “but” coming…)

BUT life is not a “box of chocolates”. Life is of the good and bad. And the good and bad must be discussed to reinforce the beneficial reasons why we should aim to live a life full of good ways and educate ourselves and our loved ones on the negative outcomes if one chooses to do the opposite.

This is the reason why I am about to discuss the topic I watched on the The Dr. Phil Show.

We must learn from the bad in order to maintain reasons why we should always live for good.

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Here is a summary of the Dr. Phil Episode I watched this morning

Las Vegas showgirl Deborah Flores-Narvaez was allegedly strangled by her boyfriend, Cirque Du Soleil dancer, Jason Griffith. Authorities claim that after she was killed, Jason and his roommate put Deborah’s body in a tub and poured cement over it. Deborah and Jason had a history of domestic violence claims in their relationship, and now Jason sits in jail charged with her murder. His mother, Charlene, and sister, Samantha, say Jason wouldn’t hurt anyone, and if he did kill Deborah, it must have been in self-defense. Charlene says she believes Deborah was the violent one, and that her son’s video recording of Deborah proves it. Deborah’s mother, Elsie, and sister, Celeste, who believe Jason killed Deborah, meet Jason’s family for the first time on Dr. Phil’s stage. And, Jane Velez-Mitchell, host of her self-titled show on HLN, weighs in on the investigation.

Please take the time to watch clips of the episode to understand my response.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJj8kp4WJeA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnr5Z66DsQ4

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After watching this episode, I was completely in shock spiritually and mentally.

I am completely amazed by how the mother and sister continues to defer from the fact that this man should still be addressed as guilty for either leading the decision or taking part in the decision to cement and dismember his girlfriend with his friend…..no matter if this situation started as  self defense.

Wow…:Shaking my head:… Self defense can NOT be used as an excuse to take such extreme actions.

My heart hurts for this lost life!

No matter how much there is talk about her being an agressor. No matter how many times you show videos of her provoking him, of her swearing at him or other people!

No one…NO ONE deserves to lose their life in such a cruel and untimely way!

Is the mother and sister’s love for him blinding them from common sense?

Any man and any woman can provoke their boyfriend or girlfriend into a rage. And that boyfriend and girlfriend has a choice…

To yell back or not to yell back…..

To stay put and argue or not to stay put and not to argue….

To walk away or not to walk away….

To put their hands on that person or not put their hands on that person….

To strangle or not to strangle…

He made a choice and a witness confessed that he put his hands on her. And a clear point was made that its takes effort to strangle a person to death. During that time of effort… he could of stopped himself if he allowed common sense to kick in and instead choose to pay a smaller price for his actions rather than the risk of facing life in prison.

I keep hearing self defense..I haven’t heard anything about a knife or a gun at the scene of the crime. What was his reason for self defense if he was not threatened with a gun or knife/weapon?

Dr. Phil made a clear point that Jason was at least 50lbs heavier than her….how can her smacks and hits compare to Jason’s???

A TRUE man will never hit a woman….because he knows that its the **right thing to do.**

He will respect the fact that most men are biological stronger than women and it is not right to take advantage of that……It’s not right to abuse that fact.

But of course it’s not right for anyone to put their hands on anyone! Young, fit or old…. Girl, boy, man or woman…. No one has a right to put their hands on anyone! (parents spanking is another topic of discussion…)

And even if she was doing wrong by hitting him, it is still not right to retaliate by hitting her back.

My heart hurts for Deborah’s sister and mother. I am imagining being in their shoes. I am imagining how frustrating and hurtful it is that the mother and daughter of my sister’s murderer are not responding with a pure sense of empathy for the fact that he took part in cementing and dismembering the body of a human being.

How can someone NOT deserve life in prison for that??!!! Self defense or not!

How can someone NOT deserve life in prison for taking part or leading the decision to cement and dismember the body of human being???!!!

No excuse is ever good enough to act in such a way!

I am completely dumbfounded and saddened. I can never be that mother….. I can never be that sister. No matter how great of a man he was yesterday, last month, last year. A person can change in an instant.. A person can change into someone amazingly better or amazingly digress to someone unpredictable and unrecognizable.

And one must not respond in denial and defend a person’s wrongful ways.

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Prevention…

We need to learn from this unfortunate story and practice prevention.

How can stories like this be prevented?

What does it take to prevent a man and woman from ending up in such a toxic relationship?

What will it take to prevent our son and our daughter from growing up into such a toxic relationship and into such a negative outcome?

What will it take to prevent this history from repeating itself?

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Today’s Thank You Game challenge is to thank someone who brings beauty into your life. (http://on.fb.me/ThankYouGame)

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I responded by saying on facebook that

I thank my mother and father for giving me life.
My heart continues to beat because they gave birth to me
I still stand because they created and nurtured me to this very moment.
I am 27 years old because I was ONE day old.

I fully acknowledge that I didn’t put myself on this earth…..my parents, my grandparents, my ancestors and God brought me here. So I now do my best to act with gratitude even when days get rough between us…I do my best to respond with gratitude. ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

Day by day, I have come to realize that I didn’t put myself on this earth…I didn’t give birth to myself and so I have been blessed with life, I was given the gift of life and that is a priceless gift. A gift that I must say thank to my parents every day that I live. Wow…I vow to say thank you to my parents everyday I see them and say “Thank you Daddy, Thank you Mommy, for giving me life. I lived today because of you”

I vow to do this everyday.

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I realized that I was so quick to say Thank you that I did not clearly comprehend that today’s game is to  “Thank someone who brings beauty into your life.” Which makes me think “Who brings beauty into my life?”

Who I truly want to thank for the beauty in my life is God.

I thank God for the yellow rays of light that brightens our warm days.

I thank God for the white clouds and blue skies that lift our head up and lifts our spirits.

I thank God for the green grass and sweet scents of colorful flowers that can make us smile.

These are the true beauties in my life that I am grateful for.

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~~ Many Blessings to you ~~

Wise words in this series

Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember –the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you. -Zig Ziglar

“I’m not trying to erase my past….I’m just trying to be better for the future” – Perez Hilton

“What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.”

“Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons.” ~C Scott

“Life involves a continuing series of choices.” – My Fitness Book

“All the problems we experience in life can be relieved with a spiritual solution” – Oprah

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“What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.”

I am so grateful to have witnessed a man, who once found great pleasure in criticizing celebrities, has found inspiration to redeem himself when he realized that what he once took pleasure in was just the same as how children are being bullied in school.

Celebrity Blogger, Perez Hilton fully recognizes that he can not run away from his past by just saying that he has changed his ways. And so he now is taking action and setting a great example by letting the world know that he admits that he was wrong and that he is taking action to change his ways.

An audience member expressed that she is finding it hard to believe that he has changed; and he responded by saying that “I’m not trying to erase my past…I’m just trying to be better for the future” ~~~What an Aha moment for me.~~~

“Life involves a continuing series of choices.” and he is now choosing a better future.

These words below supports him so well.

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Everyday the sun rises is an opportunity for all of us to grow into a new and better person towards a new and better future.

Whatever bad you or someone has done yesterday, last month, last year should be seen as just that. That was yesterday, that was last month, that was last year and so on.

You should **be given room to change** and/or that person or persons **should be given room to grow, change, redeem themselves** instead of be held in a box of “No Good” for the rest of your or their lives just because of the bad you or they did in the **past**.

“Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons.” ~C Scott

We are all flawed…..There is no such thing as a perfectly birthed human being…..and so everyone should be given a chance to redeem themselves.

Everyone has the ability to change when the people around them changes their attitude towards them. Family, Friend, Ex, etc…..give people room to redeem themselves.

You don’t have to put up with their toxic attitudes and actions, if necessary, stay away from them….keep at a distance from them and give them room to redeem themselves…for however long it takes.

“All the problems we experience in life can be relieved with a spiritual solution” – Oprah

I believe all our troubles are meant to direct us to aligning our steps with GOD…aligning our steps to lessons that will lead to good ways.

Give room for someone to find their path towards alignment with God….towards alignment with GOOD.

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I am so so so grateful for Oprah’s Lifeclass

~Many Blessings to you~

Wise words in this text

The benefit of my pain is it gave me an intensity! – Tony Robbins

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The benefit of your pain is to give you wisdom, to discover strength that you never had before, to discover the gift from it which is to protect, serve and save yourself and most importantly to save another.

Share your pain, share your story, find peace from saving another.

*a great lesson learned today

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Thank the person you hurt because they have given you a conscious.

Quest for Love

What a blessing, What JOY to find “the one”! To find Mr. Right or Mrs. Right! The man, the woman you will give your ALL too WITHOUT a second thought! In society today, it seems like it takes LUCK to find the one. According to movies, according to magazines, according to stories people share with us….it almost seems you just got to be LUCKY to find yourself with Mr. or Mrs. Right. Someone who is absolutely in LOVE with you and ONLY YOU!

We seek and so many of us find and rush into relationships with hopes to find that person! Influenced by family, friends, society who directly or indirectly tell us that we are of age to date or to marry; opinions that were based on their watch and on yours.

Many of us end up heartbroken and scarred from a relationship that started off so right and ended SO wrong. The heartache came because we didn’t know and were not taught that the best time to be in a relationship is on GOD’s Time and it is simply because “HIS timing is better than [ours]”…..Always.

Reading those words in this blog has re-enforced my commitment to stay pure for the man of my dreams. The man God knows so much better than I because HE is the one who is working on “the one” for me. And a true man of God would be loyal, loving, faithful, committed and I put all my faith on His Timing. I look so forward to that day.

The Making of a Woman, one of the best sermon’s by Pastor Johnson of Eastern Star Church. Eve was not God’s afterthought; neither were YOU! God didn’t make woman until Adam realized he needed one. Pastor Johnson’s next point was that if a man doesn’t know that he needs you, then its not the right time.
The making of woman is a process. God put Adam in a deep sleep while He was making Eve. God wants to make you whole and complete before he wakes up the Adam in your life.

God is not through with you yet! Do not become any less than who you were created to be. A man that accepts you as you are is the right man for you. I accept that God is working on me while He is also working on my Adam. His timing is better than mine, so I believe…

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